"Care for a game or two?"
-by Sarah Leung

Given the uproar caused by the Singapore Idol, everyone now are educated to cast their votes! So to ride on this madness, I would like to start my topic for today with a simple poll. Here's the question- just how frequent have you tell your love ones you love them?

A. Huh... I beg your pardon?
B. None, why bothers when my partner didn't even say it to me!
C. Who cares? We know we love one another, (turn to look at your partner) right?!

No matter what you vote for, it reflects only one thing- Looks like your relationship is rocky!

In my opinion, sweet talking does set fire to a relationship. It is part of the game that keeps it burning! Many a times, love turns to cold water and you could hardly feel the heart-drumming moment. Majority would choose to ignore or make believe that it's a norm. Some go on the wrong track and mistook it for a change of heart. No sweat people, all you need is something refreshing & you will get it back to safety. But just how many people in Asia know how to play the game? Baby, it's all in the mind.

When I say games I don't mean "flings". Even though I have to admit that a little jealousy can generate sparks in your love arena, I would not encourage such a risky solution. You will end up living by yourself if you don't do it right. It is interesting to discover how your significant other reacts to your flirting. Conservative Asians define "flirting" as a disrespectful act of wild & cheap kid trying too hard to impress the opposite sex but it's not always the case. It depends on the audience you said it to.

A simple phrase may sound differently when you say it to your children, lover or even your parents. Just to cite an example, when you say "You smell great..." to the little one, you meant it as a praise for good hygiene practicing. And when you tell your dear that he/she smells great, to them it's not just a compliment, it has hidden sensuality that makes the words & sound of it sexy. As for the parent side, I don't think you want to know. Ha!

To play the game there is no rule (that's what attractive about it). So let the games begin with "I love you".